Too many times, we hear women complain about how few good men there seem to be out there, but long ago I made a commitment to myself that I would never take a ride on that band-wagon. I’m sure you’ve been in circles where you’ve heard someone say something negative like ‘all men cheat’, ‘they can’t be trusted’, or ‘you’re better off alone.’ Women of faith must know these statements aren’t true. As women who love the Lord with all our hearts, we know the God we serve gives only good and perfect gifts. This is exactly what Heavenly Father means a “good man” is be to a woman with a pure heart. This man is a gift—a reward, not because she’s so good, but because God is so good. The Lord absolutely, unequivocally rewards His people; He said so in Hebrews 11:6. He will reward us in ways that exceed the grandness of anything we could ask or think. This means those of us that are praying to partner must ask ourselves the pivotal question, “What do I need to do to be rewarded?”
In Genesis 2:18 (NLT), we can glean a little insight to the dialogue Heavenly Father had with His Son, and the Holy Spirit. This verse tells us, “Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” This is a very simple and straightforward truth for us to digest. God concretely spells out that He designed man and woman to be helpers to one another. He made a woman to be just right for her man, and a man to be just right for his woman. It’s no way to misinterpret this. God created man first, and then took woman from the man’s body. He equipped the woman with all the attributes she would need to compliment her other half. Together they would make unity and companionship between the two complete.
God established a precedent that is positively etched in stone. In 2Corinthians 3:5(KJV), the Apostle Paul said, “Not that we are sufficient of ourselves to think any thing as of ourselves; but our sufficiency is of God;” Neither the man or the woman is complete in and of themselves. Sufficiency comes only from God. This gives us a major lens for understanding that two are coming together as one to serve God’s purpose, not their own. If you live daily with the agenda of pleasing God already anchored in your heart, He will reward you with a helper to compliment your efforts to please Him; for Hebrews 11:6 affirms that He is a Rewarder of those that diligently seek Him.
God’s commandment is that we continue the good work of Jesus Christ, for this is the work He rewards. When the work of Christ is our central focus, all our motives and intentions follow suit. Our motives, Christ-energy, and efforts then become grounded in God’s goodness and flow from a really good place. We shouldn’t look to make a man our everything. It’s an expectation that no human being can fulfill. Looking for another person to fill up our empty spaces can potentially land us in a pool of idolatry. This is a big no-no! Only Heavenly Father is our sufficiency. He’s the Supplier and Source of all good things—things like good relationships, good blessings, and good living. Nothing good runs out when He is our priority.
So instead of seeing lack, we need to change the lens from which we few God, His blessings, and His faithfulness to His promises. Sharing God’s love is the ignition to any worthy pursuit in life, and we should greet every morning knowing that when we press ‘GO!’, His love will continually keep our tanks on ‘Full’. Making the statement or thinking for one second that there aren’t plenty of good men out there speaks to the condition of your believing. It tells the story about how you view God’s love and how you expect to be rewarded.
God’s love is no ordinary love. His love creates! It produces more love, and it changes everything for the better. 1John 4:18 tells us that His love casts out fear. Fear is the absence of faith, and God tells us that love cannot thrive in an environment like this. You can’t focus on two things at one time, so if your eyes are focused on lack, they can’t be focused on love. Don’t do this to yourself. Don’t work against your desire for marriage by living with fear. Don’t fill your tank with negative thoughts and confessions. Fill it with God’s love so that you’ll live worthy of the reward you expect!■
Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.
“Good Men ARE Plentiful!” written by Kim Times, edited by Reverend Fran Mack for Sundie Morning Sistas ©2016. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord! SMS is dedicated to inspiring and encouraging Christian Women through the Word of God.