In Genesis 2:18(NLT), God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” Not only is God revealing His heart for humanity in this verse, but He, the Creator of all, has said that something isn’t good. Therefore, it would behoove us to take notice with all due haste. He said it’s not good for man, a male, to be without a helper. This helper was made from the man’s body, and because God is the Creator of the helper, we have assurance that like the man, she was not deficient in any way, but masterfully made. God’s Word tells us that out of one, two were established. The goal? That two would function as one.
Every man and woman have the option to decide who they want to be with and for how long they want this person in their lives. This is a personal choice, and because we have free will, we are free to make it. In today’s environment, there are many mature men that have never been married. They are attractive, financially stable, and have relationships that help them maintain a certain level of fulfilment and contentment. Keeping it 100, many of them are not in any hurry to marry. A large percentage of women are willing to take care of a man’s physical desires without being married. Many men have grown accustomed to having their cake and eating it too.
Genesis 2:15(NLT) tells us more about the order our extraordinarily loving Father put in place. It says, “The LORD God placed the man in the Garden of Eden to tend and watch over it.” Adam received his assignment before God made the helper. This is a very important piece of knowledge to have. In the infinite and perfection of God’s wisdom, He thought it best for man to mentally and emotionally recognize the void, toil, and severity of assignment without assistance. If God allowed the man to recognize his need for union and companionship, we, as sisters in Christ, should not interfere with His plan.
In Luke 14:28, Jesus Christ said, “But don’t begin until you count the cost. For who would begin construction of a building without first calculating the cost to see if there is enough money to finish it?” His instruction to us is to consider the needs and sacrifices before we get into the toil of the assignment. This informs us that there must be a recognition of what it will take, so we can decide whether we’re willing to pay the price.
A wife has her own assignment from Heavenly Father, and she cannot confuse it with the husband’s nor can she interfere with his. Both are equal in importance to God. We must never violate the purpose that He has ordained. Part of the man’s assignment is to calculate the void in his life without having the kind of companionship God has appointed. Sisters shouldn’t clog up the process by diverting his attention and assignment with physical pleasure. Make sure the man understands there’s a sacrifice that must be made and you are worthy of the price. In other words, don’t provide the cake to a man who can’t appreciate in every way what it means to be without it.■
Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.
“Assignment without Assistance ” written by Kim Times, edited by Reverend Fran Mack for Sundie Morning Sistas ©2019. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord! SMS is dedicated to inspiring and encouraging Christian Women through the Word of God.