The person that we choose as a partner is not necessarily who God would choose for us. We typically have no idea how monumentally consequential this statement is. We do the pickings, and then we ask God to cosign, and that’s not how that thing works. I think some of us take this approach not realizing how important it is to Heavenly Father that we fulfill the call He’s placed on our lives. We operate within the four walls of our existences, and from day to day, this is what we see. Well, God is continually expanding those four walls and many of us resist this by limiting our vision to only what WE want to see, not what HE wants us to see. When we’re single and praying to cross paths with a marital partner, if we then choose a partner based on our limited vision, it is likely that we will become very comfortable with this person. Therefore, we will become very comfortable with where we are, and this poses danger to our destinies.
If the reality of this thing we call ‘destiny’ is a small or insignificant matter in your thinking, then this teaching may not be impactful to your journey. But if you know you’re meant to impact the Kingdom of God in a meaningful way; if you feel in your spirit that the believer’s walk is deep and you’re about to go deeper; and if you feel that you’re heading towards a point where things will converge, and many of your struggles are going to make perfect sense, then you definitely want to keep reading.
God is leading you to the place that He had destined you to be, and He doesn’t ever make a mistake. One of the things that we must be certain of, as it relates to His leading, is that He never forces or pushes us into anything. Through the Holy Spirit, Heavenly Father lovingly guides us. An important characteristic of this is our willingness to be guided. It is a willingness that must be demonstrated. In Matthew 6:33, Jesus Christ commanded us to seek the Kingdom of God and His righteousness preeminently. This means that seeking God first shouldn’t be a secondary response, it should be a natural way of operating in our sonship.
No one would put forth the effort to diligently seek something they didn’t think was valuable. Jesus Christ provided a parable for our understanding of this in Luke 15:8-10(NLT), “Or what woman, having ten silver coins, if she loses one coin, does not light a lamp, sweep the house, and search carefully until she finds it? And when she has found it, she calls her friends and neighbors together, saying, ‘Rejoice with me, for I have found the piece which I lost!’ Likewise, I say to you, there is joy in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.” Heavenly Father tells us about the appropriateness of our attitude when it comes to seeking something precious. Even the angels rejoice when one sinner repents. They have a hallelujah party when a person whose name is written in God’s Book of Life finally finds the Lord Jesus Christ and comes into the fold. Heaven knows the treasure of eternal life, and we ought to know the treasure of seeking God and realizing that He can be found!
As believers, sometimes we must pull on the things of God before we lay hold of them. This demonstrates we understand the enormous value of what God is offering, but many of us will not engage our destinies to this extent. And as women, we are quick to try and pull on a man’s attention, but we won’t put nearly the energy and effort into pursuing God’s agenda for our lives.
If we are seeking God, then we’ve made our destiny within His Will and Plan our first priority. The difference is behaving and operating from a place of authority rather than from a place of doubt or ambiguity. Moses had been a tremendous leader for the Children of Israel. This wasn’t because he was perfect. Like all of us, he had sin in his life, but Moses captured his destiny and fulfilled his purpose because he was obedient to follow God’s directives. Heavenly Father had a plan to deliver His people, and things had to be done a certain way. Pharaoh was a ruthless and diabolical taskmaster. His heart was dark and hardened, and to deliver God’s people in a way that didn’t violate His own laws and statues, God had to entrust the operation of their rescue into the hands of someone who could be trusted.
God Almighty does not put assignments into the hands of those who haven’t demonstrated the stewardship to carry them through. We can say and teach this principle a million different ways, but it is such a powerful lesson that nothing anyone says will hinder or detract from the plainness of its truth. God is building capacity in us so that we are equipped to handle the bounty of what we desire while never taking our eyes off the assignment we’ve been given. The wrong person will most certainly steer us away from this path.
This is why choosing your destiny partner ought to be something you would never leave to chance. We often want God to move in our lives in a way that exceeds our vision and our ability to steward and administrate spiritually. He has called us to be sons and daughters. We should tackle life from the perspective of Christ-authority-and-power, not by guessing and doubt. Heavenly Father will allow us to try to force a square peg into a round hole, but He desires that we surrender our will for His Will. Then, we won’t have to force anything. We can simply walk by faith and be confident that God will unfold our destinies and bless us with a destiny partner according to the excellence of His plan.■
Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.
Scripture taken from the New King James Version. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson, Inc. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
“Choosing Your Destiny Partner”, written by Reverend Fran Mack, edited by Kim Times for Sundie Morning Sistas ©2019. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord! SMS is dedicated to inspiring and encouraging Christian Women through the Word of God.