Although we’ve had our fill of romantic movies and novels, by now, most of us realize that marriage isn’t intended to be a romantic novel. It is both glorious and challenging, and it will stretch our faith and give it quite the workout at times. As single women desiring marriage, our responsibility and duty is to spiritually prepare for it. We must do this to mitigate the complexities of two people coming together that have had two very distinct and separate lives. Many of us are tired of waiting. We state emphatically, “I know this isn’t God’s Will for me to still be single!” We make this declaration because we do become weary at times, but we must not yield to the temptation of giving up on our aspirations. Our commitment to keep stretching ourselves spiritually and to move beyond the point of emotional exhaustion is what prepares us the most.
Heavenly Father does not make empty promises. He keeps His Word, and we can depend on this. You might think that you are trusting Him as you should, but we must remember that God rewards diligence, and He is the only One that can determine when that bar has been met. Your allegiance to God is going to be tested, and for most single women, this is the area where the devil both attacks and tests us the most.
Many of God’s daughter’s lose hope and enthusiasm after a certain amount of time goes by without seeing movement. Insecurities, doubts, and sadness rear their ugly heads, and distort our mental agility to bounce back with greater love and appreciation for God. Instead of seeing Him as all we need and the fullness of our portion, sometimes we see Him as only the Supplier of what we want. This is a very undermining approach to our relationship with Him. We see ourselves or our lives as incomplete without the man, and this line of thinking nullifies our faith every time. It sets us back to square one.
The manifestation of any blessing requires the momentum of Godliness. It will require a persistent and consistent pace of showing forth our love for God through the Lord Jesus Christ. We are complete in our blessed Savior. Colossians 2:9-10(NKJV) tells us, “9 For in Him dwells all the fullness of the Godhead bodily; 10 and you are complete in Him, who is the head of all principality and power.” A failure to believe, trust with all our being, and lay claim to our wholeness and completeness in Christ presents the area of our faith that must be increased for marriage and every other facet of life.
Marriage is God’s institution, and it cannot be used as a tool to satisfy our boredom. Some of us are bored with our lives because we haven’t learned how to build one. If we get married in this state, we will soon get tired or bored with our husbands. We will begin blaming them for no longer exciting us, and then we will start looking in other pastures. The grass isn’t greener, and the other pastures are not the solution to what ails us. We simply haven’t learned to be filled in the belly of our understanding from the feast of God and His Word.
God has already set things in motion. He did this long before we arrived on the scene, and He waits for us to line up with His plan and purpose. Hosea 14:9 (NLT) tells us, “Who is wise? Let them realize these things. Who is discerning? Let them understand. The ways of the LORD are right; the righteous walk in them, but the rebellious stumble in them.” Our Heavenly Father is not slack. He doesn’t overlook details and nothing, absolutely nothing, slips by Him. He knows the plan He has for us, it’s a good plan, and HIS purpose will always prevail. His ways are right, and we are required to trust in His process. God knows your need, and He keeps His promises.
Our Heavenly Father is doing His part, and on this we can have every assurance and confidence. Our responsibility is to do our part, and our part is to keep Godliness in the forefront of our lives, because this is what He requires. We must keep the momentum of our faith going, so that we don’t miss a beat. We must make a change in our minds and not lose heart. God commands us in Romans 12:2 to renew our minds to His Word so that His Word becomes the greatest part of who we are. This takes time and persistence. We must demand ourselves to trust in God’s Word to the point that we are fully sold out on His goodness. When this is our commitment, the manifestation of His blessings will most assuredly unfold. ■
Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.
Scripture taken from the New King James Version. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson, Inc. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
“God Keeps His Word” written by Kim Times, edited by Fran Mack for Sundie Morning Sistas ©2022. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord!