Because of disappointments and setbacks, life for many single women today is one of slowly giving up on the idea of marriage. They’ve allowed themselves to become weary from battling to keep their hopes lively, and they are opting to move this area of their lives from spiritual to walking in the flesh. Spiritual strength is built by standing firm in Christ no matter the obstacles, but many singles are deciding to renege on their faith. It doesn’t occur to them that the person they will attract is someone that will respond to their lack of faith in God. It will be someone much less compatible than God’s best.
Heartbreak is very challenging, and for many of us, it proves very difficult to get over. It brings out emotions and feelings we’ve never experienced, and these can stifle us with fear and anxiety both mentally and physically. The sting of heartbreak can linger, and if we don’t address our pain through the healing power of God’s Word, many of us become a magnet for a repeat scenario. If we desire to move our status from ‘single’ to ‘happily married’, our spiritual practices and efforts must make a shift first. A new level of growth and maturity in Christ must be firmly in your grasp before you take that walk down the aisle.
Psalm 84:11 (NLT) tells us, “For the LORD God is our sun and our shield. He gives us grace and glory. The LORD will withhold no good thing from those who do what is right.” Our Heavenly Father isn’t in the business of withholding the blessing of marriage from anyone. He has designed the universe in such a way that new dimensions of blessings are opened when we are high enough in spiritual elevation to see them and walk through their doors.
God tells us in Jeremiah 29:11 that He has a good plan for our lives. Ephesians 1:11(NLT) tells us that because we’re united with Christ by accepting him as the Lord of our lives, “we have received an inheritance from God, for he chose us in advance, and he makes everything work out according to his plan.” Our lives do not belong to us, they belong to God. 1Corinthians 6:20(NLT) affirms, “for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.” We must not abdicate our faith and try to take matters into our own hands. Now is the time to grow in Christ, and to elevate our faith in God.
Our motivation for deep prayer and spending quality time with Heavenly Father shouldn’t be only because we want to meet someone. Companionship with a significant person is wonderful, but it can’t be our sole motivation. Companionship is a reward for honoring God and being obedient to His Word. It’s a reward for patiently enduring and showing God that its Him we love. Our adoration of Him can’t be based on what He can give us. We have the privilege, pleasure, and responsibility to prove to God that our motivation is to please Him and to tighten our relationship with Him through Jesus Christ.
It’s not that difficult to meet a man and fall in love with him, but we should want a person that is as capable of loving us as we are of loving them. We should want the man that God has ordained to walk with us through life. If this is your desire, you must realize that it is a part of God’s plan for your life. His timing is perfect, and to make sure that we are prepared to greet our blessing with open arms, we must keep our faith firmly anchored in God and never give up hope regarding what He has in store for our lives.■
Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.
“Greet Your Blessing with Open Arms”, written by Kim Times, edited by Reverend Fran Mack for Sundie Morning Sistas ©2022. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord! SMS is dedicated to inspiring and encouraging Christian Women through the Word of God.