We’re living in a time that is like no other. We’re more intelligent than perhaps any other generation, and yet relationships seem to be much more complicated than they’ve ever been. Many single people are looking for compatible partners and complain that its like finding a needle in a haystack. Women say there aren’t any good men out there and men say the same about women. It’s a quandary that causes a tremendous amount of frustration and loneliness as a single person. We have to know that this isn’t what God had in mind when He presented Adam with Eve. He told them to cling to one another in the spirit of unity, and to be fruitful and multiply. He made it very simple, but sin turned it into something complicated. God never wanted this for a married couple, and if we want to partner successfully, we must heed His warnings and get back on track with the expectations of His Will.
The wrong person
Romans 8:29(NLT) says, “For God knew his people in advance, and he chose them to become like his Son, so that his Son would be the firstborn among many brothers and sisters.” Our Heavenly Father is mindful of each of us. He knows everything there is to know about us, and He has a plan for our lives. Even before we were formed in our mother’s womb, God chose the exact time and place of our births. There’s nothing random about us, and He wants us to understand this.
God always wants what is best for us, and God’s Will is always the best. His Will is that we become in every way like His first and only begotten Son, Jesus Christ. We are to spend our lives learning to love, give, and share like Christ, but we have an enemy that will stop at nothing to prevent us from doing this. It’s one of the reasons we must not ignore the warnings in God’s Word about guarding our hearts. He tells us in Proverbs 4:23(NLT), “Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.” Many of us haven’t approached our relationships with this level of diligence. We’ve allowed the wrong person into our hearts, and it has been the downfall of many.
Be clear that the devil knows your type. Getting you to fall deeply in love with someone sent by him is a very old trick of his. We should by no means be afraid of this, but God has warned us to be exceedingly careful. He tells us in 1Peter 5:8(NLT), “Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour.” Heavenly Father wouldn’t warn us about the forces of darkness if they were not a danger. We are empowered through Christ to resist these attempts against us. We must be fully committed to lean on Heavenly Father for wisdom and discernment regarding our significant relationships, and if you haven’t heard from the Lord that this person is sent from Him, hit pause.
Don’t get lost in fairy tales
It’s a fairy tale to expect things to work out well when we fail to acknowledge God’s Word and Will. Faith is required to have lasting and meaningful relationships, especially in our day and time, and faith comes from hearing God’s truth. We can’t have a fairy tale mentality about what it takes to cross paths with the person that God has ordained to walk with us through life, and we can’t be lost in a fairy tale about what it will take to maintain unity and peace with this person.
We can’t build relationships on the world and its fantasies, and God has warned us not to attempt to do this. He tells us in Proverbs 4:25-27(NLT), “25 Look straight ahead, and fix your eyes on what lies before you. 26 Mark out a straight path for your feet; stay on the safe path. 27 Don’t get sidetracked; keep your feet from following evil.” Romance can be a beautiful thing, but it was never intended to be a fairy tale. It’s given to us to treasure the person that God sends.
1Corinthians 3:11(ESV) tells us, “For no one can lay a foundation other than that which is laid, which is Jesus Christ.” God warns us to keep the ways of Christ and never try to build on a foundation that wasn’t laid by Christ. He tells us in Matthew 7:26-27(NLT), “26 But anyone who hears my teaching and doesn’t obey it is foolish, like a person who builds a house on sand. 27 When the rains and floods come and the winds beat against that house, it will collapse with a mighty crash.” Heed God’s warnings that protect your relationship with Him and your standing in Christ. Let God take care of your quest for marriage, and you take care of worshipping Him in truth, preserving yourself in holiness, and applying His Word to every aspect of your life.■
Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.
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“Don’t Ignore the Warnings”, written by Kim Times, edited by Fran Mack for Sundie Morning Sistas ©2022. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord!