It’s never easy when a relationship ends, especially when you wanted it to continue. The pain of rejection that we experience in heartbreak can feel overwhelming. Recently, I spoke to an old friend who had gone through a tough breakup. She and her boyfriend had been together for two years, and they were talking about getting married, but that didn’t happen. Almost a year ago, they broke up, and recently, she found out he had gotten married to someone else. Her heart couldn’t quite wrap around it. “We dated for two years, and he always led me to believe he wanted marriage as much as I did. I guess he just didn’t want to marry me.” The news hit her very hard.
Psalm 144:1 says, “Praise the Lord, who is my rock. He trains my hands for war and gives my fingers skill for battle.” We learn a very serious lesson from this verse, and it’s that life can be a spiritual battle, and it intensifies in relationships. If we’re not grounded in God’s truth and haven’t built a solid foundation through our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, heartbreak can shake us to the core. We have to know that this isn’t what God wants for us.
He wants our focus to be on building a strong and committed relationship with Him before we dive into any significant relationship. No matter what challenges and attacks the enemy throws our way, our foundation in God through Christ is what keeps us stable and steady. Without this foundation, we’re more vulnerable to disappointment and confusion. Our Heavenly Father doesn’t want us to get swept away by emotions, and He doesn’t want us to make a heavy emotional investment in someone that isn’t ordained by Him to walk with us through life. When we do this, we’re setting ourselves up for needless disappointment, and often, this injures our faith.
In 1 Corinthians 13:12 (NLT), the Apostle Paul explains, “Now we see things imperfectly, as in a poor mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity. All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God knows me now.” When we enter into a new relationship, we can’t fully see the outcome. It’s like looking through a foggy mirror. We just don’t know everything, and the times are too dangerous and people too deceptive to leave this to chance. Only God has that perfect clarity, and we need to be fasting and praying continually, staying close to Him, and moving only according to His guidance and timing.
My friend knew deep down that something wasn’t quite right in her relationship. Even when they talked about marriage, there was always a subtle feeling in her gut telling her it wasn’t meant to be. Like so many of us, she ignored it because she didn’t’ want to go through those long periods of loneliness anymore. She loved him deeply and kept telling herself that things would eventually work out. But Jeremiah 17:9 (NLT) reminds us, “The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?” Our hearts can often lead us to believe what we want to hear, even when it’s not the truth.
Heartbreak can feel like a tornado that sweeps through your life, and leaves you feeling lost. You’re unsure about your decision-making, unsure about your emotions, and unsure about what to do next. But here’s the thing that you can be sure of—you must trust God through your heartbreak. Don’t allow yourself to stay stuck in the pain, constantly wondering if you’ll be okay or wondering about the mistakes you may or may not have made. Instead, you must draw closer to God, and as you do, He will reveal more of His love and truth to you. Trusting God through Heartbreak isn’t about avoiding the pain, it’s about knowing that God is right there with you, walking through it, healing your heart and guiding you to greater blessings as you grow higher in Christ. ■
Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.
“Trusting God Through Heartbreak”, written by Kim Times, edited by Rev. Fran Mack and KLizzie for Sundie Morning Sistas ©2024. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord! SMS is dedicated to inspiring and encouraging Christian Women through the Word of God.