Our besties and good girlfriends want the best for us; that’s why we keep them close. So, sharing good news with them and others that we love comes naturally. When we’re excited about something—whether it’s a new job, a dream come true, or, in this case, a budding new relationship—we want to share that joy. We want our friends and family to experience the same excitement and to celebrate with us. But when it comes to new relationships, especially those we hope could be “the one,” sharing the news too early may not be the wisest choice. If our tendency is to move too quickly without pacing ourselves and the relationship, we could be setting ourselves up for disappointment.
Patience in God’s Timing
Many of us have a pattern of jumping into relationships full throttle when we meet someone new. Immediately we begin to emotionally invest and imagine a future with this person, assuming we’ve found the one we’ve been praying to meet. There are countless stories out there of singles that have done this, only to find that they’ve acted prematurely and caused more damage than good.
Proverbs 13:3 (NLT) says, “Those who control their tongue will have a long life; opening your mouth can ruin everything.” When we meet someone new, no matter how wonderful and attractive this person may appear to be, we really don’t know who they are. We’ve waited so long for the opportunity to even cross paths with a seemingly compatible mate that we’re overwhelmed with the excitement. We immediately start sharing all the details with friends and family and tell them how amazing we think this person is. You’ve probably known someone that has done this. They’re telling those closest to them that they think they’ve met “the one,” and they’re convinced that God has sent them.
There’s nothing wrong with sharing joy, and we should testify of God’s goodness as often as we have opportunity. However, waiting until our discernment is absolutely on point and we’ve heard clearly from the Lord is a must. When we meet someone new, we need time to discern if this person is a blessing or a trick. The wisest thing we can do is keep our mouths closed—at least for a season.
You see, sharing too much too soon can invite unwanted interference, especially when it comes to the enemy’s mess and disruptions. Always looking for an opening to spoil the good things God has for us, we need to remember how dastardly the devil is. In John 10:10 (NLT), Jesus Christ declared, “The thief’s purpose is to steal and kill and destroy. My purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life.” Our blessed Lord didn’t keep this a secret; the enemy wants to destroy anything that could bring us closer to God’s plan for us. When we prematurely reveal too much about our relationships, it can give the enemy a foothold to stir up doubt, confusion, and even fear in others—or worse, in ourselves.
Let it Unfold with Prayer, Diligence, and Discernment
Instead of rushing in, let the relationship unfold naturally by taking time for prayer, diligence, and discernment. Allow time for you both to get to know each other, for the good and the not-so-good to come through. It’s in this time of waiting and observation that we can more clearly see whether this relationship has the depth, strength, and God-aligned foundation to last.
Always begin with prayer and patience. Bring the relationship before our Heavenly Father and seek His Kingdom first—seek His clarity, wisdom, and guidance, and don’t make a move without it. Ask Him to reveal His Will, and to protect your heart from impulsive decisions. Prayer keeps us on the path of God’s plan and helps us stay grounded in His purpose. This is where we want to remain before and during any significant relationship. Next, do your due-diligence: get to know the person beyond surface-level attraction. You need to observe their character over time—how they treat others, respond under pressure, and handle challenges. Proverbs 4:7 (NKJV) tells us, “Wisdom is the principal thing; Therefore get wisdom. And in all your getting, get understanding.” Diligence is about doing the hard work of understanding whether this person is truly compatible with you in the long term.
True love doesn’t rush. It’s not about jumping to conclusions or trying to fit someone into a mold of what we think we need. It’s about growing together. We have to be real with one another, and allow God to lead the way every step.
God will not fail you. He is faithful to fulfill His promises in His perfect timing. Instead of rushing to share every detail of a new relationship, trust that God is working in the background. He’s taking care of things you can’t see. You’ll find peace in His plans when you wait on Him. Then, when it’s time to share your good news, you’ll be able to do so with confidence and joy, knowing that it’s been tested, purified, and blessed by God. ■
Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.
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