God knows us infinitely better than we can ever know ourselves. He knows that we love comfort, and we look to people, relationships, places, and situations that will support our comfort level. When we find coziness, we typically cling to it, and we never want to let it go. As a single person desiring marriage, you may not have given this much thought, but the truth is that your identity as a single person has become comfortable for you. This has to change before you become married.
Getting married is the profound action we take to signal heaven above and everything beneath it that two have become one. After that, it becomes the day-to-day decision of growing closer and preserving the bond that marriage creates before God. Our Heavenly Father masterfully created the covenant of marriage. It is His institution, and He’s given it to us to help us enjoy life, but most importantly, the covenant of marriage honors our relationship with God.
We are not random creations designed to aimlessly roam the earth. We have a purpose for being here. We are a purpose people created by a Purpose God. Everything He does has a reason, and this reason is in accordance with His Divine Will and Plan. Ephesians 1:11-12(NIV) says, “In him we were also chosen, having been predestined according to the plan of him who works out everything in conformity with the purpose of his will, 12 in order that we, who were the first to put our hope in Christ, might be for the praise of his glory.” Our mission as sons and daughters of God is to share the Good News about Jesus Christ in everything that we do. Our very lives should be and can be the embodiment of Christ, and everywhere we go, our light will shine, and people will be blessed simply because we showed up.
It takes commitment, diligent effort, and a dedication to stay in God’s Word to keep this light shinning bright. Our minds and hearts must be continually infused with the truth of God’s goodness so that we stay sharp. But there is also the business of other parts of life. There’s some other stuff we have to do so that all aspects of our existence remain blessed. Taking care of our spiritual life is the fuel for all other parts of us, but those other parts need support as well. Our mental, emotional, and physical selves need attention. God saw fit to provide the support for these other aspects of our being through the marriage union.
Considering this, the importance of marrying the person God has ordained as the right fit for our lives should be apparent to us. This person provides support in a way that will allow us to continually seek and put God first, and we will do the same for them. But when we step outside of the divine order that God has destined for our lives, we end up with chaos, and this is one of the reasons we see so much divorce.
The person that God has ordained for your life will help you fulfill your call. This absolutely must be understood, because fulfilling your call in Christ must be the most important thing in your life. It is life itself! Jesus Christ said in John 15:1-2,8(NIV), “1 I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. 2 He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. 8 This is to my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.” If a person has no intention of bearing fruit, if they will not be the light God has called them to be, they need to address this, because without light there is darkness; you can never find what you’re looking for in the dark.
After putting him in the garden, the first thing that God did was give Adam his life’s work. Genesis 2:15(NKJV) tells us, “Then the LORD God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to tend and keep it.” Adam had stuff to do. His assignment from God was the priority. It was the foundation that allowed his life to flourish. Eve was part of this flourishing. She was no less important or precious to God than Adam, but she too had a specific purpose which was to be Adam’s help mate. She was the person God assigned to support Adam as he pursued God’s purpose.
God’s purpose came first. If we miss this order, we miss everything. Heavenly Father met Adam’s need because Adam was diligent to carry forth whatever God asked him to do. Even when he sinned, the blessing of a help mate was not subtracted. Do not allow yourself to become impatient with God’s timing. He will meet your need. Let your focus be consumed with learning what He requires of you, and then pursuing God’s purpose with your whole heart. Stay in His Word, because it is His roadmap and direction from start to finish. If we focus on pleasing God, He will cause us to flourish. He will guide us through the Spirit of Jesus Christ to the person that will support and walk with us through life.■
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