It’s no secret that there are many single women praying to God to bless them with a good man. And it’s not just to date someone or have a companion, but they are praying for the man they’ll spend the rest of their lives with. This desire makes sense. There’s something within the heart of a woman that yearns to share an intimate connection with a man, and it’s God’s provision that satisfies this yearning. Psalm 37:4 tells us to delight ourselves in the Lord, and He will give us the desires of our hearts. If we study this verse a little deeper, we’ll discover that God is the One that places these Godly desires in our hearts. He has woven them within our DNA, so we’re built this way. God would not place a desire in our hearts and then refuse to satisfy it. That wouldn’t make sense, and our God is too brilliant and perfect to do something nonsensical. We’ve got to recognize that we’re at a place and season in our lives where we need to stop thinking that God is withholding this blessing from us. It’s time for us to get on board with His plan.
Isaiah 43:1(ESV) tells us, “But now thus says the Lord, he who created you, O Jacob, he who formed you, O Israel: “Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine.” We belong to God, lock, stock and barrel. Every ounce of us is His, and through His unparalleled mercy and grace, He has redeemed us through our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. Psalm 84:11 tells us that God is our sun and shield. The sun is the source of all our energy, and God is telling us that He is our life-giving Source, and He is also our shield. He tells us in this verse that He will not withhold any good thing from those who love and honor Him.
God wants us to be blessed infinitely more than we can want it for ourselves. This is a truth that must be firmly anchored in our minds and hearts. God’s goodness and His willingness and ability to bless us is the basis of our faith. He would never withhold the blessing of marriage, and we must be clear on this. However, the truth is that many of us are not as clear on it as we should be. We’re not seeing results because our faith isn’t firmly anchored in the reality of God’s goodness and truth. Many of us will say that we’re backing our faith, but our history shows that as soon as we have the man in our lives, we shortchange God. We become too comfortable and our commitment to God wanes. That’s not a solid foundation of faith.
God is the Giver of our desires and He alone fulfills them, but make no mistake, faith is required. That’s nonnegotiable. When we allow the desire to get ahead of the Giver, we hold on so tightly to the man that we squeeze God completely out of the equation. This should not be, and we know this, but many of us still haven’t broken this pattern. God must come first, and He should hold the number one spot in our hearts above anyone or anything else.
True faith is unshakable faith. It’s believing that is fully persuaded, and a true demonstration of it means that our behavior, response, obedience and commitment to God will not waver just because someone new enters the picture. We must remember that Jesus Christ is Lord, and our lives must follow his example. He always did the Will of God, and this should be our motivation too. In John 10:14-15(ESV), he said, “I am the good shepherd. I know my own and my own know me, just as the Father knows me and I know the Father; and I lay down my life for the sheep.” God gave Jesus Christ a mission and sent him to earth to fulfill it. Jesus Christ never wavered. He endured the kind of suffering that no human being could endure, and he died an agonizing, horrible, and humiliating death on the cross. He did this for us, and every day our lives must demonstrate that we understand and are eternally grateful for the victory from sin and death that he won for us.
God loves us more than we can fathom. His love is so great for us that it will take us an eternity to live it out. He is always helping us, but He will not overstep His laws. He expects that we will hear and obey His Word. Through the Apostle Paul, He tells us 1Timothy 1:4-5 not to pay attention to fables and myths, because these will not build us up in faith. These are tricks of the enemy to keep us from moving forward in the promises of God. Instead, God tells us to get on board with His plan for our lives so we can love from a pure heart, a good conscience, and sincere faith.
God also tells us that many have strayed from this, and it’s one of the reasons the world is in the shape it is today. Keeping it real, many women have reached a level of obsession when it comes to having a man in their lives. That desire drives just about everything for them. And when they think they’ve met him, they’ll give that man their best—their emotions, their bodies, and their hearts, but they won’t do that for God. To try to shortchange God in that way is a recipe for disaster. He tells us in Romans 12:1 to present our bodies, and everything in them, to Him as a living and holy sacrifice. So, if we want to have what God wants to give us, we must do things His way. Our hearts must belong to God, and we must back our faith by giving Him our very best, because this is the way to show Him that He’s number One in our lives. ■
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“Give God the Best of You”, written by Kim Times, edited by Reverend Fran Mack for Sundie Morning Sistas ©2023. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord! SMS is dedicated to inspiring and encouraging Christian Women through the Word of God.