If the person you’re dating isn’t ready for a marital commitment and you are, what are you expecting to happen? Do you expect that he will change his mind? Are you assuming he’ll grow more in love with you or are you willing to simply continue with things as theyRead More →
As human beings, we crave love, and whether we’re willing to admit it or not, most would do almost anything to have it. Many people today are still searching for that special someone, and they hope this person will shower them with the love they’ve always wanted. It’s no secretRead More →
Genesis 1:27-28(MSG) tells us, “God created human beings; he created them godlike, reflecting God’s nature. He created them male and female. God blessed them: “Prosper! Reproduce! Fill Earth! Take charge!” God is our Creator, and He has made us in His image. 1John 4:8 affirms that love is not justRead More →
One of the young women that I counsel has finished college and is ready to get married. She’s bright, intelligent, attractive and loves the Lord. But often she feels like she’s not doing enough with her life to please God. She says this because of her unfulfilled desire to meetRead More →
There are two things that can happen when you grow up around strong women that have survived tremendous struggle and heartache. The first is that their tenacity and grit becomes a witness of courage and faith. The second is that you become intimately acquainted with the severity of how abandonmentRead More →
I received an invitation from my financial institution this week to come in for a review. They advised that now would be a good time to sit down and discuss my needs and new opportunities. I thought, “hmmm…what if I received a message like that from God, what would myRead More →
Recently a young Christian woman asked me if I thought getting married at a young age was a wise move. This was a question that was very familiar to my life’s experience. I was reared in a family of very strong women, and they had seen their fair share ofRead More →
Lamentations 3:22-23(ESV) tells us, “22 The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; 23 they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.” Within this passage is a theme worthy of our aspirations for not only the beginning of a new day, butRead More →
From years of endeavoring to encourage many sisters in the Lord to continue in faith regarding their desire to marry, I have learned a few things. One of them is that we don’t let go of our burdens as easily as we should, especially when it comes to relationships ofRead More →
Fourteen years ago, Sylvia’s husband died suddenly from a heart attack. He was 42 years old. She was left to raise a young teenage boy. She was heartbroken to the core to find herself alone and a single parent. Moving from Europe to the United States, she and her youngRead More →
One of the things we do when we’re in a relationship is reshuffle our lives to make room for the new man. Most of us see this as a welcomed change, and we’re happy to do it, but when the relationship doesn’t go as expected, it can be very challenging.Read More →
Recently, I heard an interview of a woman that was talking very openly about her past relationships. She said her last relationship was one of her worst breakups, and it was evident that she had more than just one or two breakups in her past. As she conveyed some ofRead More →
There are just as many good men out there as there are good women. To second guess this truth is to diminish the brilliance of our Heavenly Father’s intelligence. There is a man that equals your capacity to love, and he is desiring your brand of specialness as much, ifRead More →
The internet has drastically changed many aspects of our lives, but you’d be hard pressed to argue against its monumental impact on dating. Because of the internet, single people have more options today than ever, but more options don’t necessarily translate to making dating easier. While it’s true that theRead More →
“This isn’t right – I gotta fix this…I miss my family!” This is what a close friend said to me as he described what made him fight for his marriage. With two children, a mortgage, and a job that he didn’t feel was worth waking up to each morning, itRead More →
There’s a question every woman that is single and waiting for the right man to enter her life must ask. It is whether wait mode has caused her to hit the pause button on other vital parts of her life. Sometimes we can do this and not realize it. WeRead More →
Years ago, my sisters and I were traveling and while waiting in the Atlanta airport one summer, we spotted a famous R&B group. They made a veiled attempt to travel incognito, wearing shades to hide their identities. Folks that are accustomed to the perks of celebrity often have an energyRead More →
My youngest daughter and I were reading one of her books before she went to bed. One of the sentences in the book stated, “I wish for more of we than me.” I instantly thought about how many single women are waiting for theirRead More →
Isaiah 40:31(NKJV)) says, “But those who wait on the LORD shall renew their strength; They shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint.” Every time I hear someone talk about how exhaustedRead More →
“Marriage is not for me – I just don’t see myself being with the same person year after year.” Have you ever heard someone make this statement? I have, and I know folks over 50 that have never been married and still continue to feel this way. “Marriage just isn’tRead More →
People in relationships can sometimes grow apart. This is a reality that any person seeking to partner should acknowledge. I’ve heard stories about couples that have been married 25 years, and suddenly, one of them comes home from work only to find that theRead More →
From the outside, my mother’s house looks like any other traditional brick ranch. Enter the front door, though, and you’ll feel like you’ve walked into a cottage of love. The memories of the home she made for us growing up reminds me of God’s wisdom in Proverbs 14:1(NLT). It says,Read More →
Eloise was approaching a milestone birthday and was planning for it a month in advance. She was excited because this year, she had someone new in her life. Eloise had been single way longer than she wanted to be, and she had done whatRead More →
When Lisa met her boyfriend Ryan, she was the heaviest she’d ever been. She was always a plus-size woman, but she thought that if she trimmed down, maybe Ryan would find her more attractive. Men are notoriously visual creatures, and some are attracted onlyRead More →
Hebrews 11:6 tells us that our Heavenly Father is a Rewarder to those that diligently seek Him. This should be important to us because all of us should want to please God, and all of us like rewards. They are the subject ofRead More →
I’m letting you know up front that this is going to be one of those teachings that encourages you to keep on fighting for the life you want, but I’m also aiming to do something else. I’m going to tell you what God says we must do in order toRead More →
1 Corinthians 14:33 tells us that God is not the author of disorder, confusion, or chaos, but He is the One True God of peace. This yummy morsel of knowledge is extremely consequential to any believer’s quest to partner with the person that GodRead More →
In his parable in Matthew 13:44(NLT), Jesus Christ said, “The Kingdom of Heaven is like a treasure that a man discovered hidden in a field. In his excitement, he hid it again and sold everything he owned to get enough money to buy the field.” Can you imagine going outRead More →
We should never judge a book by its cover. This is one of those golden rules, and it truly is one to live by. Judging something solely on the basis of what appears externally can be a costly mistake, and many single women can testify to this. A person canRead More →
2Thessalonians 3:15(NLT) gives us a tremendous jewel of comfort. It says “Now may the Lord of peace himself give you his peace at all times and in every situation. The Lord be with you all.” This verse is so comforting that we might forgetRead More →